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Fact: Twenty-five percent of married women attend church services without their husbands.
Fact: Over 90 percent of men believe in God, but only one out of six attend church services.
Why is there a shortage of men in our church services, even men who believe in God? According to David Murrow, author of, Why Men Hate Going to Church, men give several reasons why they don’t go to church:
- Church is boring.
- Church is too feminine.
- Church is too long.
- Church is not relevant.
A few years ago, Promise Keepers conducted a study which revealed that, when a child is the first one in the family to be committed to a church, 3 ½ percent of his family follows; when a woman commits herself to a church, 17 percent of families follow; but, when a man (dad) leads the way, 93 percent of families follow!
Further, a study from Hartford Seminary revealed that there is a direct correlation between men who are actively involved in a church and the positive health and growth of that church.
In our evangelism efforts it is crucial that we specifically reach out to men. It is also vital that we take a serious look at our churches and remove anything feminine that would deter men from coming and getting involved. For example, remove feminine décor, such as flowers, lace, and pastels, and replace it with more neutral décor. In worship, we need to focus on being concise by beginning and ending on time.
Let’s not give men more excuses for not getting involved in a church. It is good for them, their families, and the church.
What is your church doing to reach out to men?
I don’t remember where I got these, but they are too full of truth not to share.
When a man says “IT WOULD TAKE TOO LONG TO EXPLAIN”
He means: “I have no idea how it works”
When a man says “TAKE A BREAK, HONEY. YOU ARE WORKING TOO HARD’’
He means: “I can’t hear the game over the vacuum cleaner”
When a man says “CAN I HELP WITH DINNER”
He means: “Why isn’t it ready yet?”
When a man says “UH HUH, SURE HONEY,” or “YES, DEAR”
He means: Absolutely nothing – It’s a conditioned response.
When a man says ’OH, DON’T FUSS, I JUST CUT MYSELF. IT’S NO BIG DEAL”
He means: “I have probably severed a limb, but I will bleed to death before I admit I’m hurt, so get over here and help me!”
When a man says ’I CAN’T FIND IT.’’
He means: “It didn’t fall into my outstretched hand, so I’m completely clueless”
When a man says “I HEARD YOU.”
He means: “I haven’t the foggiest clue what you just said and I am hoping desperately that I can fake it well enough so that you’ll not spend the next 3 days yelling at me.”
When a man says “YOU LOOK TERRIFIC!”
He means: “Oh please don’t try on one more outfit, we’re late and I’m starving.”
When a man says “I’M NOT LOST. I KNOW EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE.’’
He means: “No one will ever see us alive again.”
When a man says, “THAT’S NOT WHAT I MEANT.”
He means: “If something I said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, I meant the other one.
Can you think of any more?